Sunday, June 28, 2009

Judge Dread.

Tonight I was talking to a friend who said she had heard that everything was not "fine." She was a little upset that I told her things were fine when they were not. It is the dreaded question of "How is Rylee??" We are judged relentlessly on the answer to this question. Truth be told, I don't know what the right answer is. I sense that people don't really want the truth or don't really want a long drawn out answer. I have blogged about this before. There are times that I just don't want to get into it and there are times that people are asking out of politeness. At these times I say things are "fine" or "we take it one day at a time" because I really don't know what to say. Here's the deal, nothing is fine, nothing will ever be fine again. We hardly ever have a full day where things are great or even fine, that's the real truth. We are trying, and doing the best we can. Sometimes we are barely staying above water and others we don't tread as hard but hardly ever have a day that is truly fine. I refuse to accept this is our "new" normal and most days are not fine. There it is out in writing for everyone to see. This was not an easy post for me but this is where we are at. This does not mean we don't have fun because we do, we make the best of what we have to deal but if everyone knew the real truth about what life is like you would probably run for the hills. It's the little things that keep us going. In a way I am thankful that we understand to appreciate the small things and not take those things that people over look everyday for granted. Life is not that bad and I wish everyone could see that. Step back and enjoy what you have.

4 comments:

Jenny G said...

Well written Janet. I wish the best for you all each day. Honestly, think about your family daily.

Andersen Family said...

Thanks Jenny:)

Chrissie, Christine, Chris, Mommy, Mama, Maaaaa... said...

Janet, I TOTALLY get what you are saying and I completely agree. I know all-to-well the complexity of the questions, 'how are you?' and how is rylee?' so I hesitate to ask but please know that I think about you daily and keep you all in my prayers...

Carrie said...

I am just now reading this because I'm terrible about coming to check your blog. I really do need to get one of these because that way maybe I will keep up on reading yours better. As you know and I have told you many times you guys are always in my prayers and I can understand why you say everything is fine even though it's not. Just know if you ever do want to talk about anything I am here to listen.


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I'm a Mom of two wonderful children, Andrew(4) and Rylee(1). My husband and I are originally from NY and moved to FL 6 years ago. I love it here and won't move back but this is where I live my home will always be in NY. When I die someone better fly my ass back there to bury me. I love hanging outside with the kiddos, sports, working out and taking pictures.

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